Moving on after a breakup

The breakdown of any relationship brings with itself a baggage of emotions, which if not dealt with in time, can result in some serious damage to you and those around you. It is always difficult to recover from a relationship loss. However, everybody has a different way to deal with it. Some may act tough and may get engaged in all kinds of different things to keep themselves distracted, while others may be thrown down into the dumps. Whatever the method be, it is important that you go through the three basic steps of surviving a break-up, which are mourning, acceptance and moving on.

      Mourning
      The first thing that you can do is mourn the loss of the relationship completely. It seems very trivial and obvious that you must be feeling sad. However, the important thing is that you express your grief, cry if you have to but do not make the mistake of storing up the grief inside you. Let it out. You can take the help of a good friend, or a relative or anyone whom you are close to. Nevertheless, make sure you free yourself of the pain and grief that the break up has caused you.
      Acceptance
      Now that you have mourned your loss, the healing has already started. It is time to accept that the relationship is over. There is no point in thinking of the buts and what ifs. It is simply a waste of time trying to figure out a reason for the whole thing, it will not help. Neither will blaming somebody help you. All it will do is embittering you.
      You need to bring up the courage to accept the reality as it is. Tell yourself that it is over and this was all there was in the relationship.  It is alright to feel sad and depressed occasionally during this time. If you do, then do yourself a favour and cry. That will unburden you.
      Moving on
      The most difficult part in the healing process is to move on. It is true that any loss will bring wounds of its own and having said that it is also important that you do not allow those wounds to be there for a lifetime. After accepting the fact that your relationship is over, it is vital that you get on with your life. Start living as you once did. Do the things that you have always wanted to do, visit places that you always wanted to visit but never got to. Renew your ties with your friends and family and let them help you in your healing process.
      Make a new start. Just because one relationship did not work out as you had planned, does not mean that it has to be the same for all relationships. When you start dating, be sure what your intentions are and what you expect. It is only easy to be vulnerable at this time and fall for the wrong person. So right from the start make sure how far you plan to take your dating relationship.

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